It’s commonly said, don’t judge a book by its cover but if this was completely true, then why would first impressions count?

Yesterday morning a met up with a young guy who is doing great things in this world. Luckily, I had met him before. If this was my first meeting with him, I would have dismissed all his good qualities. He was nervous and nearly pulled my arm off shaking it. Ok yes, that’s a slight exaggeration but you know where I am going with this.

Roslyn on the other hand (in this pic) had the right amount of strength which commanded my attention and I was able to see her strength and capabilities shine through.

When we meet someone for the first time, we go through a process and decide if we like a person or not. We then determine if we can trust or respect this person. This is also true of what happens in a job interview. The interviewer assesses whether a person will be a good fit for the company and if they will be manageable or not.

Interesting, most interviewers decide within the first few minutes, if not seconds of an interview, whether a person is suitable for a role. This is proving to be true with everything we do in life, not just interviews!

The fact is, it’s quite common for many of us to sabotage an interview in these and other subtle ways, and sometimes people don’t even realise they’re doing it!

Here’s one tip from my book – Confessions of a Recruiter in the chapter ‘Don’t Sabotage your Interview!’

Not having a firm handshake – research shows that a firm handshake helps to make a great first impression for an interview, or simply when you’re meeting someone for the first time.

If your grip is a little too strong, and perhaps causing some pain, an interviewer may judge you as being aggressive, or perhaps even difficult to work with.

Believe it or not, a weak handshake is worse than an overly aggressive one, as the person is perceived as insecure, fragile or lacking confidence.

It’s amazing how we’re judged so early in our interview, so make a good impression and practice having a firm handshake.

For more tips please feel free to check out my book – Confessions of a Recruiter or visit

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What other tips do you have?